tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666613150525776296.post4482809278711430797..comments2023-03-22T04:28:46.852-05:00Comments on Drums in the Deep: One Day at a TimeStevenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10530403291010169878noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666613150525776296.post-75010638434611644202009-12-12T18:37:54.334-06:002009-12-12T18:37:54.334-06:00okay, I'm back.
You know I was thinking...tw...okay, I'm back. <br /><br />You know I was thinking...two arguments in six months does not warrant an I-draw-concern-now-rush-me-to-the-marriage counselor. My sister and her hubby argued, at least three times a week....never exceeding more than seven. ;-)<br />We're good...we're growing...we're learning. <br />Right? Right! :* Fair enough... :Pjonihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03401569094090026684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666613150525776296.post-4064752511413520972009-12-11T18:31:41.253-06:002009-12-11T18:31:41.253-06:00To my defense I have to say, speaking of 'coll...To my defense I have to say, speaking of 'collective baggage' I didn't stay in a marital relationship for twenty years because I bail at an argument. I'm in this for the long haul. <br /><br />I cannot fathom what you've had to endure over this past year. <br /><br />I don't stay out of pity, I don't stay because I have nowhere to go (but in seven degree temperatures and 15 inches of snow, it's pretty hard getting anywhere.) I stay because of love. PERIOD!<br /><br />I have love that measures in leaps and bounds and have been known to jump through hoops to be where I need to be. I'm a strong woman who has gotten through the death of not one but TWO children, alcoholism, drug abuse, sexual abuse, and many other things. I'll get through this too. <br /><br />Hurdles are a way of learning how to leap higher. Always...in all ways.<br /><br />I love you...always...in all ways.jonihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03401569094090026684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5666613150525776296.post-25865897172330589822009-12-11T12:14:47.658-06:002009-12-11T12:14:47.658-06:00I used to always think that true love meant no mor...I used to always think that true love meant no more work. Wrong. What I've learned with B in the nearly 3 years that we've been together, is that relationships take constant work, no matter how much love is there. It all sounds so familiar. I go through phases with him where I'm like, what is the solution here? Is there a solution? An easy one? Why do these same problems keep coming back? I don't want to have that talk again. I'm sick of talking about that. Why can't it just be fixed. <br /><br />thing is, I don't think it will ever be perfect. I think those issues will always have to be addressed for us, because, like you said, we've both brought huge pasts and a lot of baggage into this relationship. old insecurites will never be completely banished, and we will not always both be spiritually fit at the same times. We haven't taken vows yet, but in my heart I have. I've taken vows with God when it comes to B. I love him in good times and bad, in sickness and health, for richer for poorer. I promise to love him and cherish him even when I want to take all my stuff and move. <br /><br />It's hard work, these relationships. But pain is a cornerstone of spiritual lgrowth, and the closer you both stay to God, the more you can survive together. <br /><br />I just wanted to say I relate. I sooo relate. But I have faith in you two. And I was a little scared reading this post, afraid you were dropping a bombshell. ;)Rohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15221466457945806775noreply@blogger.com